Pronoun Transition

Pronouns are more than grammar: they affirm identity. Some may start with gender-neutral pronouns like they/them and later switch to he/him or she/her as they feel more comfortable or as others begin to see them as their true gender ('passing').


Your Pronouns

  • Your pronouns are valid. You don't need to 'pass' for others to respect them.

  • Gender identity is personal. You deserve to be addressed in the way that makes you feel most comfortable.


  • Common Challenges

    • Consistency: Getting others to use new pronouns can take time and reminders.

    • Misunderstanding: Some may not understand or resist the change.

    • Emotional Impact: Worrying about reactions or frequent corrections can be stressful.


    Helpful Strategies

    1. Communicate Clearly: Let people know your pronouns. Share as much or as little detail as you want.

    2. Visual Reminders: Use pronoun badges or email signatures.

    3. Lean on Support: Allies who model correct pronouns can encourage others.

    4. Correction Scripts: Prepare simple reminders, like 'I use she/her now.'

    5. Be Patient: Change takes time – some will adapt faster than others.


    Changing pronouns is a personal decision that can greatly support identity and well-being. Whether someone uses they/them briefly, long-term, or shifts to gendered pronouns, the goal is the same: finding language that affirms who they are.