Pronouns are more than grammar: they affirm identity. Some may start with gender-neutral pronouns like they/them and later switch to he/him or she/her as they feel more comfortable or as others begin to see them as their true gender ('passing').
Your Pronouns
Your pronouns are valid. You don't need to 'pass' for others to respect them.
Gender identity is personal. You deserve to be addressed in the way that makes you feel most comfortable.
Common Challenges
Consistency: Getting others to use new pronouns can take time and reminders.
Misunderstanding: Some may not understand or resist the change.
Emotional Impact: Worrying about reactions or frequent corrections can be stressful.
Helpful Strategies
Communicate Clearly: Let people know your pronouns. Share as much or as little detail as you want.
Visual Reminders: Use pronoun badges or email signatures.
Lean on Support: Allies who model correct pronouns can encourage others.
Correction Scripts: Prepare simple reminders, like 'I use she/her now.'
Be Patient: Change takes time – some will adapt faster than others.
Changing pronouns is a personal decision that can greatly support identity and well-being. Whether someone uses they/them briefly, long-term, or shifts to gendered pronouns, the goal is the same: finding language that affirms who they are.