Everyone has the right to be addressed correctly at work. Using the correct name and pronouns is a fundamental aspect of respect and inclusion. If a colleague deliberately misgenders you, this behaviour can be distressing and may amount to discrimination or harassment.
Legal Protections
Equality Act 2010 (UK): Gender reassignment is a protected characteristic. Deliberate misgendering can be considered harassment or discrimination under the Act.
Employer's duty of care: Employers are legally required to provide a safe and respectful working environment for all staff.
Steps You Can Take
Document the incidents
Record dates, times, what was said or done, and who was present.
Keep a consistent log in case formal action is required.
Raise the issue informally (if safe to do so)
Speak directly to your colleague to explain how their behaviour impacts you.
If you don't feel comfortable or it doesn't resolve the issue, move to the next step.
Report to management or HR
Share your concerns with your line manager, HR department, or another trusted senior colleague.
Provide your documentation to support your case.
File a formal complaint
If the issue remains unresolved, follow your workplace's grievance procedure.
Clearly state that deliberate misgendering is harassment under the Equality Act 2010.
Seek external support
ACAS (Advisory, Conciliation and Arbitration Service): Offers free, impartial workplace advice.
Stonewall: Provides guidance and resources for LGBTQ+ workers.
Trade Union (if applicable): Can represent and support you in grievance processes.
Why It Matters
Respectful language fosters an inclusive and professional workplace.
Misgendering undermines dignity, creates a hostile environment, and can affect wellbeing and performance.
Addressing it promptly sets a clear standard of respect and accountability.
You have the right to be treated with respect and addressed correctly at work. Deliberate misgendering is unacceptable and may be unlawful. If it happens, document it, raise it with your employer, and seek support if needed.