It's recommended to use your child's current pronouns, even when speaking about the past. Doing so affirms their gender identity and communicates respect for who they are.
While it may feel challenging at first, consistently using their pronouns in all contexts (past and present) helps reinforce your child's identity and contributes to their well-being. Over time, this practice often becomes more natural.
Tip: If you find it difficult, give yourself permission to pause, reframe, and try again. Practicing this approach can make it easier to align your language with your child's lived experience.