If your child has been told they need to change in the disabled toilets, you may feel worried, frustrated, or upset. This practice can make children feel excluded and singled out. Every child deserves privacy, dignity, and the chance to feel comfortable at school – including using facilities that match their gender identity.
Why It Matters
It can be stigmatising: Being separated from classmates sends a message that your child is “different.”
It affects wellbeing: Exclusion can damage a child’s confidence and sense of belonging.
It isn’t necessary: Schools can create inclusive solutions that respect all students.
What You Can Do
Here are some practical steps you can take:
Start with a conversation
Arrange a meeting with your child’s teacher or a school leader.
Share how being asked to use the disabled toilets makes your child feel.
Know your child’s rights
Students have the right to be treated with dignity and fairness.
Equality and anti-discrimination laws protect trans and gender-diverse students.
Ask about alternatives
Request that your child be allowed to use the facilities that align with their gender identity.
If your child prefers a private space, suggest options that are voluntary, not imposed.
Encourage inclusive policies
Suggest that the school update its policies to support all students.
Ask if staff receive training on inclusion and equality.
You are not alone. Many families face similar challenges, and positive changes are possible when parents, schools, and students work together. Advocating for your child helps create a safer and more supportive environment — not just for them, but for all students.